I’ve been taking a break since my 5th loss in January to really work on myself inside and out. Having that many losses really breaks you down as a woman. When you add my losses, pcos, and infertility, the self loathing was starting to become unbearable. I resented myself and my body to a point that was unhealthy, so for the past while I’ve been actively practicing self love and acceptance. I no longer look in the mirror and see a broken woman. Although my body cannot yet do what nature intended, I still have so much more to offer this world, myself, my husband. I may not be able to carry a baby but my body has done amazing things and taken me on amazing journeys and I’m thankful for that. I have days that are better than others but I’m making an effort to try to love myself every day.
I’ve made some amazing new friends who love and support me. We share similar stories and have found beauty, acceptance, and love in each other. I’ve consciously ended friendships that have been toxic. It’s hard to let go of people you’ve known for years, but you really do see who your true friends are when you go through infertility and pregnancy loss. I no longer have time for people who aren’t in my corner or who deem my problems insignificant. Friendship is a two way street, if I can support you, you can support me, end of story.
I’ve been exercising and trying to eat healthy, but I’ve stopped dieting. I have no clue what I weigh any more (I even looked away last time I was at the hospital) and it’s honestly the most amazing feeling ever. The number on the scale means nothing about who I am or my worth as a person, I can’t believe it took me 28 years to realize that but I’m so thankful I finally did. Some days I eat salad, some days I eat candy and cupcakes and chocolate… Some days I go to the gym, some days I lay on the couch all day watching TLC. Life is all about balance! I can honestly say I’m the happiest I’ve been in a very long time. It’s so refreshing to look in the mirror and love yourself.
I haven’t given up on my journey to become a mother but this was a very much needed break. I really hope this fresh perspective will benifit me going into my next round of treatments. Sometimes you just need time to step away from it all, pick up the broken pieces of your heart, glue them back together to make something even stronger, and try again.
– Jennifer